A new employee is grappling with feelings of shame and concern over her reputation following an embarrassing incident at a work conference. The individual, who has asked to remain anonymous, shared her experience in the advice column “Good Job,” which is hosted by columnists Laura Helmuth and Doree Shafrir.
During the summer of 2023, shortly after joining her new company, the employee attended a work conference in another city. On the last night, she joined her colleagues for a night out, where she consumed an excessive amount of alcohol. Although she did not engage in inappropriate behavior, her lack of control resulted in colleagues stepping in to assist her. Feeling embarrassed, she has since avoided discussing the incident but did apologize to one colleague who helped her sober up.
Now, as the company holiday party approaches, she is worried about how her past behavior will affect her reputation among coworkers. “I can’t stop worrying that people will be watching me like a hawk for any misstep,” she wrote, seeking advice on how to navigate the upcoming event.
In response, Helmuth emphasized the importance of self-forgiveness. She pointed out that while the employee has been preoccupied with the incident, her colleagues are likely to have moved on. “Decent people, like you, pay much more attention to their own blunders than to anybody else’s,” Helmuth noted. She encouraged the employee to avoid approaching the holiday party with feelings of anxiety and instead focus on preparation and social engagement.
Helmuth suggested preparing conversational topics ahead of time and reaching out to the colleagues who helped her during the previous incident. “Be especially gracious to the people who helped you at the last party,” she advised, highlighting that expressing gratitude can foster positive relationships.
Furthermore, Helmuth encouraged the employee to take the opportunity to thank those who supported her, reinforcing their kindness and generosity. “It’s not too late,” she said, suggesting that acknowledging their assistance could serve as a natural conversation starter as the holiday party approaches.
In a related personal narrative, another individual shared their financial struggles following their marriage at the age of 22. After five years of facing significant challenges, including unexpected medical bills and the need to provide support to friends in difficult situations, they have found it difficult to save. This background underscores the broader context of how personal circumstances can impact professional life and relationships.
As the holiday season approaches, office parties often serve as social barometers for workplace dynamics. Navigating these events can be a challenge, particularly for new employees dealing with past missteps. By focusing on positive interactions and self-forgiveness, individuals can cultivate a more supportive and connected workplace environment.
