A recent survey indicates that one in five Americans in a relationship does not consider their current partner to be their soulmate. Conducted by Talker Research, the study surveyed 1,279 individuals currently in romantic partnerships between August 15 and August 21, 2025. The results reflect a significant sentiment, revealing that 20% of respondents express doubts about their connections.
On a more optimistic note, the survey also found that 80% of participants believe their partner is their true match. The data suggests that while many individuals feel assured in their relationships, there remains a notable percentage questioning their romantic bonds. The survey highlights a gender difference, with slightly more women reporting that their partner is not their soulmate — 14% of women compared to 11% of men.
Millennials emerge as the demographic most likely to embrace the idea of soulmates, exhibiting a stronger belief that their partner fulfills that role compared to older generations. Yet, despite these affirmations, many seem to entertain the notion of potential alternatives.
The survey reveals that 16% of respondents currently in a relationship would consider leaving their partner for someone else if that person expressed romantic interest. This inclination is particularly pronounced among men, with 19% indicating they would pursue another interest compared to 12% of women.
Clinical Psychologist Adam Horvath of Personal Psychology offers insight into these findings. He notes that feelings of attraction toward others can prompt individuals to evaluate their current relationships. “It is not uncommon to think we could leave our partner for the new, exciting, mysterious other one, but it matters how we respond to these feelings,” he explains.
Horvath emphasizes the importance of self-reflection when experiencing attraction outside a committed relationship. “If you often find yourself emotionally invested outside your relationship, that’s a signal to look at why your boundaries are dropping.” He reassures that experiencing a fleeting attraction does not inherently indicate failure in one’s relationship.
The survey’s results further illustrate that while many individuals may indulge in thoughts of others, these feelings often stem from deeper issues within their current partnerships. Horvath elaborates, stating, “When we compare our real partner to a fantasy of someone else, and check out because ‘there’s something better,’ that’s less about the crush and more about something missing that the backup person represents: playfulness, romance, excitement, or simply just something new.”
The methodology behind the survey involved 2,000 Americans, with 1,279 being in a committed relationship. Talker Research conducted the survey online, ensuring a diverse representation of opinions across the United States.
As the findings circulate, they open a broader discussion regarding the complexities of modern relationships and the ways individuals perceive love and commitment. The results suggest that while many couples express confidence in their partnerships, a significant minority are grappling with uncertainty regarding their romantic futures.
